In a new article for Esquire, author Robert Bateman writes how dad bloggers are changing the way he thinks about fatherhood. He talks about his recent experience at the Dad 2.0 summit, an annual and increasingly important gathering of influential dad bloggers across the country. While I couldn’t attend this year’s convention, I feel the need to address Bateman and what he writes.
The biggest misperception to Bateman’s article is when he writes about the dad blogger movement as a community of stay-at-home dads. Truthfully, we are MANY things and clearly Bateman didn’t research nearly well enough. I am writing this after my ten hour work day, in the middle of my fifty hour work week, in the middle of my busiest season at work. I am a journalist and this is the February sweeps period, a critical time for TV news, and that is WHY I can’t attend the convention.
I am a working dad.
I am a dad blogger too.
You see Mr Bateman, dad bloggers are many things. We are stay-at-home dads and working dads, gay dads, straight dads, divorced dads, married dads, single dads, religious dads, atheist dads, military dads, caring dads.
Quite simply, we are dads, just dads, and we come in all shapes and sizes. To pigeon-hole us in just one category is to minimize many of us who are just as caring and just as important as the others. I am writing from the perspective of a father with two girls, trying to make it work at a time when both my wife and I need a salary to pay the mortgage. I struggle to balance work and family like so many and MY story is just as important as the story of another father who stays at home. I support my fellow dads from every walk of life, stay-at-home and working, because we are equals in this effort to recalibrate society’s misconceptions of dads. We are equals.
In your article you speak of being both dad 1.0 and dad 2.0 walking the line between generations. But clearly we’re still stuck in the past if we think this movement is only about one group of dads and not the other.
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